‘Taku ara’ focuses on baby’s life path, and how parents need to give conscious thought to preparing this path.
Matua, mātua — Conscious parenting
Help parents to think about their parenting style and explore parenting behaviours. Help them become more conscious about what they do as a parent, and how their behaviour affects pēpi.
Taumauri — Mana aotūroa
The underlying philosophy of this wānanga is based on the Āhuru Mōwai principle ‘Mana aotūroa’ — Children learn through active exploration of the environment.
‘Mōhiotanga’ and ‘māramatanga’ (meaning awareness and understanding) are words to learn that embrace the kaupapa of this wānanga.
Whakawhanaungatanga: whakatuwhera, whakatau, mihimihi
Continue to build whanaungatanga within the group. Meet whānau as they arrive. Open with a karakia and a waiata, your own or see the ones provided. Give an overview.
Emphasise that this hui will centre on the importance of:
- baby’s developmental journey and pathway
- their parents’ intentions and commitment
- their parents’ courage, energy and values.
Do a short presentation on attachment, and emphasise that parents and whānau are responsible for encouraging attachment. That attachment is the first step in a healthy, positive pathway for pēpi.
Actively encouraging their attachment relationship with pēpi helps parents to raise their awareness of baby’s needs and of their own parenting behaviours.
Being present and ‘kanohi ki te kanohi’ with baby when baby is wide-awake and alert is so important for baby’s optimal brain development and learning. And it builds and strengthens parents’ relationship with their pēpi.
In pairs, and using the SKIP Whakatipu booklet that’s appropriate to each baby’s age, read and discuss the ‘Whānau say’ sections. Ask participants to share the things they and their whānau do with pēpi. Talk about how their values and culture are passed on to their children.
Share the SKIP Thinking about parenting booklet, and talk about the parenting styles (p. 3). Ask whānau to spend some time working through pages 4, 5 and 6.
Explain that 80% of what baby learns comes through the vision centres in the brain. How whānau behave is so important, because pēpi is seeing whānau members as role models, and imitates their behaviour.
Stress the importance of positive male role models and male nurturing. Introduce the pakiwaitara in Whakatipu booklet Te Pihinga 1 (p. 40). It tells the story of Tama-nui-ki-te-rangi, Māui’s tīpuna who reared him from a birth.
Explain the following whakataukī and encourage whānau to have a 2-minute discussion about its meaning:
- ‘Nāu i whatu te kākahu, he tāniko tāku.’
- ‘Parents are responsible for the character of their child.’
Prepare a suitable area at the venue (inside or outside), for taking photos of whānau and/or individuals. Take photos and then share these electronically with whānau or print and share them at the next wānanga. Start a photo album or book for pēpi, to record some special moments as they set off on their pathway with their whānau.
Whānau may like to include:
- ‘kanohi ki te kanohi’ moments
- things that whānau do together with baby, for example:
- pānui pukapuka.
Bring everyone together for closing, and offer an opportunity for whānau to share their experience of the day. Reflect on the kaupapa of this hui, ‘Taku ara’. Close with a karakia and a waiata, your own or see the ones provided.
- SKIP Whakatipu booklets
- photo setting props
- small photo album
- book-making materials
- A4 paper
- glue sticks
- marker pens
- sticky tape
- ziplock bags