Have a look at page 16 in the Whakatipu booklet Te Kōhuri 1 with dad and mum. Ask them:
- What do you see in this cartoon drawing?
- Does this look like your tamaiti?
- What things are they getting into?
- How are they getting into places you’d rather they didn’t?
- What other things have you noticed about their current abilities and behaviours?
There are a few important messages on this one page. Firstly, the tamaiti is clever at getting into places, but not very aware of safety issues. They need adults to keep them safe.
The second paragraph refers to Kupe, the great navigator who sailed all the way across the Pacific Ocean to Aotearoa. The third point is a reminder that exploring and ‘getting into things’ is helpful for prompting a young child’s interest in learning. Ask:
- What safety concerns do you have in your kāinga where your tamaiti is concerned?
- Why do you think Kupe and his explorations have been referred to here?
- What is your understanding of the term haututū?
Page 8 of the Whakatipu booklet Te Kōhuri 1 describes haututū as ‘someone who is very inquisitive and sometimes annoying’.
- What things does your tamaiti do that could be called haututū?
- Does everyone view these behaviours in the same way?
- What do you think makes some people feel differently about certain behaviour?
If mum and dad see their child’s behaviour in a negative light, perhaps you, the worker, can encourage them to focus on the positive side of things.
Parenting tamariki at this stage can be demanding at times, but also very rewarding. Inquisitiveness and high energy needs to be directed into positive avenues. But when parents are tired or stressed this can feel like a tough job.
- What do you do when you just feel like lying on the couch and chilling but your little one would rather be climbing, trying to get outside or exploring the contents of the fridge or cupboards?
If things can be kept positive the outcomes will be more pleasant and the learning will be greater. Remember that play is children’s learning. We can’t expect kids this age to sit quietly for too long. Tamariki need to move around, use their big muscles, and let off steam.
- What are your strategies for helping them to let off steam on wet or cold days?
There are other SKIP booklets that offer guidance about dealing with children’s behaviours. Look at page 4 of SKIP Tips for under-fives with mum and dad and talk about the 10 basics for a firm and fair approach.
You might also find the ara mātua for this stage helpful and the ngā tohu whānau on pages 22–23 of the Whakatipu booklet Te Kōhuri 1.Notes
How does this relate to the SKIP resources?
Six things children need - Te hanga ao tōtika, ao haumaru - A structured and secure world.