In the SKIP Whakatipu booklet Te Pihinga 3 (page 23) in ‘Ngā tohu whānau’ under ‘Talking and listening’ we’re reminded:
- that children of this age understand much more than they can say
- to get down to their level and speak face-to-face, using clear language
- to share waiata, stories and pukapuka every day.
Here are other helpful places in Te Pihinga 3 to explore with the whānau:
- Page 4 — ‘Pēpi says’:
‘I’m starting to understand and respond to more kupu.’
- Page 9 — ‘Waiata kōhungahunga’:
‘Pēpi loves to hear the same familiar songs over and over…’
- Page 15 — ‘Pēpi says’:
‘I’m amazed at what my tongue can do. I like to practise all the different sounds.’
Page 16 — ‘Pēpi says’: ‘I love my waiata…’
- Page 18 — Whānau say:
‘We are giving pēpi a world rich in language every day by describing, responding, confirming, adding and modelling — “bathe him in te reo”.’
- Page 19 — ‘Kaitiaki pēpi’:
‘Ngā mahi a rehia is…the art of story-telling, singing, dancing and kapa haka’.
Tips for dealing with toddler impatience
The Tips for under 5s booklet (pages 6–7) reminds parents that toddlers ‘want things here and now’, and suggests:
- ‘try telling them about things in advance. “When I’ve finished hanging out the washing we will…”’
- ‘praise behaviour you do like, and ignore behaviour you don’t’
- ‘Try to say what you do want them to do (and why).’
You can find similar messages on page 6 in the Thinking about Parenting booklet. A parent tip says, ‘Try and say five positive things for every negative one!’
Ask toddlers nicely
When whānau ask toddlers to do something, remember to:
- say what you want them to do
- give reasons why
- notice, praise and thank them.
It’s okay for toddlers to say ‘no’
In the Aroha in action booklet, ‘Respect mokopuna space’ (page 19), it reminds whānau, ‘It’s OK for mokopuna to say no to unwanted physical contact.’
Ask the whānau:
- How do these ideas match your child’s behaviour at the moment with regards to their understanding language?
- What changes have you noticed?
- Why do you think that’s happening?
- How do they respond to you when you sing or tell stories?
- What sort of new sounds are they trying to make?
- How has this affected you and your whānau?
- What times with your child have been exciting, fun or made you celebrate?
- Have you had challenges with your child?
- What would you like to talk about?
- What more would you like to find out about?
How does this relate to the SKIP resources?
Baby wall frieze - Whakarongo mai - Listen to me
Six things children need - Te tūāpapa mō te tika me te hē - limits and boundaries