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Session notes for Working alongside young parents Stages: 3 to 5 years


The SKIP teen stories in the Group Programme have many tips about working with young parents. in new window

All of this advice comes ‘straight from the horse’s mouth’ — that is, from young parents themselves. Their advice is useful to anyone who helps others. And it is certainly as relevant in a home visiting situation as it is in group situations.

The key points are:

  • treat everyone with respect
  • explain your role
  • be positive
  • ask open-ended questions (those that require more than just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer)
  • listen
  • give them time.

However, when supporting rangatahi, be aware that young people may be more sensitive to the slightest hint they are being judged.

Young people often get undeserved bad press. As the Brainwave Trust explains in Positive Youth Development, critical talk can create self-fulfilling prophesies. Young parents may ‘live up or down to the expectations they believe we hold for them’.


  • leave any negative thoughts and feelings at the door
  • don’t assume that everything is gloom and doom
  • talk with them about the positive things in being a young parent
  • find out from them what’s good about their situation and their role as a parent. (This is especially important if they’re feeling worried or unsure of themselves.)

Here are some starter questions that might help:

  • What are some of the things you’re enjoying about life at the moment?
  • What are you happy about?
  • How would you like to be treated?
  • What are you good at?
  • What makes your baby lucky?
  • What are you learning about your baby?
  • What are your hopes for pēpi?
  • What would you like to tell other people?
  • Help me understand how I can best support you.
  • Is there anything I can help you with? Please let me know any time.
  • How are your parents and whānau feeling?

Social attitudes towards teen parents have certainly changed in the last few decades. However, they’re not uniformly positive. 

The parents and whānau of rangatahi can still experience shame and disappointment that their daughter is pregnant or that their son is going to be a dad. They may:

  • be worried about their tamaiti’s education is being disrupted
  • be concerned that they’re facing big challenges in their young lives or that they’ll be financially stretched
  • be experiencing sadness that their dreams for their child are being shattered
  • be upset that history is repeating itself.

Pātai atu ki te whānau:

  • How are your parents taking this news?
  • Why do you think that is?
  • What would you like them to know?

How does this relate to the SKIP resources?

Baby wall frieze - Whakarangatiratia ahau.  Make me feel special — we all need to feel special and capable of doing what we need to doOpens in new window

Six things children need - Te ārahi me te māramatanga.  Guidance and understanding — encourage young parents to ask for advice if they’re feeling a bit unsure, rather than worrying on their ownOpens in new window

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