In 2004 the Children’s Issues Centre, University of Otago and the Office of the Children’s Commissioner published a research report called The Discipline and Guidance of Children revealing six key principles for effective discipline.
Summarized in the SKIP poster ‘Six Things Children Need to Grow Up to Be Happy Capable Adults’, they provide a foundation for helping parents manage kids’ difficult behaviour without having to hit or yell.
Although based on relationships between parents and children they’re just as effective for building positive relationships with anyone, anywhere - home, EC centres, classrooms or workplaces.
Right from birth love and warmth builds trust and positive self-esteem. Respectful relationships are at the core of effective discipline and positive parenting.
Good things come when we talk/sign with kids, watch/listen to them and give them clear messages
When kids understand why we want something done they’re more likely to do it. Explaining works better than orders or threats
Clear and simple rules that children understand work best. Rules keep things safe and fair for EVERYONE
Children feel safe when the rules don’t change. Consequences for misbehaviour should be:
Related- directly to what has happened
Reasonable - for their developmental age and understanding
Respectful - firm + fair - not humiliating
Kids feel happy and relaxed when they know what’s happening.
PLAN ahead for possible challenges e.g. take snacks with you to the supermarket
MODEL behaviour we want kids to copy - don’t ‘throw an adult tantrum’ when things get frustrating for you.